Reunion II 2012


 


 
Reunion II of the Ex-Oblates of St. Francis de Sales
 at Malvern, PA, September 9-11, 2012
by
Ron Kotz
 
It was a happy coincidence that the Beatification of Fr. Louis Brisson, the founder of the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales, was celebrated in Troyes, France on September 22, so soon after our reunion. As I reflected on the events of our weekend together and of the subsequent correspondence with some of those who graciously contributed to this collaborative recollection, I dusted off my copy of Fr. Carney’s compilation, Fr.Brisson’s Commentary on the Constitutions and the Spiritual Directory of the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales.  It was as though Fr. Brisson was speaking to us across space and time, “Warm your heart with God’s love and you will love your brothers as you should. You will love them with a love of feeling. They are not strangers to you. You are of the same family. Love them as brothers. Defend each other. Protect each other…” 
 
At Malvern, 50 Oblates and former Oblates rekindled the warmth of their brotherhood and, for a time, experienced the joy of a family reunion. While most arrived in time for dinner on Sunday, September 9, a small group arrived earlier and made the short trip to Childs, MD, the site of their entrance into the Oblates so many years earlier. This was once a vibrant place of beginnings filled with earnest and hopeful candidates to the Oblate life. It teemed with new life amid the setting of a self-sufficient farm tended by these young “city –folk” under the watchful eye of farm-seasoned Brothers Leonard and Tom and Ed.  Childs is now the site of a comfortable and well-equipped retirement and assisted-living community located in an annex of the old white building that once served as the Oblate novitiate atop Soyhieres Hill. We thank Fr. Mike Murray for his hospitality and patience with us as we enthusiastically roamed the old, uninhabited structure from the recreation room to the abandoned dorms of the “old” building and admired the refurbished, stately Buckley Hall that is still in use. The old refectory has been given over to a collection of archived documents and cherished memorabilia of the Oblates in America. The old novitiate building and its still-active chapel dominates the landscape along Blue Ball Road, and in its shadow is located the Oblate cemetery. One of us, Don Zurack, later recalled, “The walk around the grave markers and memorials on the summit gave me pause – so many close confreres, acquaintances, characters, enigmas – passed away! Oh, the impact of the collective witness that the closely arranged configuration of markers produces on that what - half acre of hilltop soil! I could spend a lot more time pacing and pondering in the Oblate cemetery at Childs.”
 
On Monday, following a leisurely breakfast with lots of conversation, table-hopping and laughter, Bill Mittendorf welcomed and amused us with a written message from “the voice of Childs” that he swears he found near an old steamer trunk embossed with the name John Conmy in the attic of Buckley Hall. Through Bill, Childs spoke to us. “Each of you, in a special way, contributed much to the Oblate way of life. Your years of dedicated service to the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales has contributed to what they are today! This I will never forget!”
 
 
Afterward we gathered in the chapel at Malvern where Fr. Jim Greenfield, Provincial of the eastern province, presided over a celebration of the Mass. Fr. Tom Hagen, in an impromptu homily, perfectly gave voice to the intensely palpable sense of community. As the Mass ended, we broke into a hearty rendition of the English version of “Tuam Salesii.” “Warm your hearts with God’s love and you will love your brothers as you should.”
 
Fr. Jim joined us in a round-table discussion where he briefed us about the Oblates of today: their ministries, his vision for the future, the formation process, the state of Childs, and a candid assessment of financial issues and options being considered. He discussed our role in the Oblate family and assured us that we are a real part of the mission of the Oblates to communicate Salesian spirituality. He recognized that we have a lot to give to our Oblate family. Fr. Jim was a dynamic presence among us, affirming and welcoming and supportive of whatever direction the spirit would move us. We straddle the line between the Oblates and the secular world, deeply informed of Salesian spirit and fully functioning within lay society. It was no surprise to find that Fr. Brisson had said, “We are not to isolate ourselves from the world, not to restrict ourselves to having rare contacts with it, as education, preaching, but on the contrary to be in continual relation with it, to mingle with it. The Oblates are thus called into society such as it is, and to do this through every possible means.”    
 
This gathering of so many of us, the Wild Geese, who through our service with the Oblates have inherited the Salesian spirit, seems to have moved some of us to pose challenging questions. This became evident in some informal discussions Monday evening. There was a clear sense of support for another reunion in 2013. There were constructive currents swirling about how to define and encourage the development of our association and these gatherings into something more. While there was insufficient time to sort through these eddies, there was clearly evidence of a stirring of the waters. 
 
For example, an ad hoc committee was proposed and is already pursuing opportunities to offer financial counsel or assistance to the Oblates. Others have suggested that our unique experiences might be harnessed in the service of formation or ministry and wondered if there would be a willing audience among the Oblates. For those living in the vicinity, it was suggested to meet periodically at Childs to befriend and encourage the infirm and ailing Oblates living there. Some wondered about social opportunities and how to involve spouses or significant others. Ideas were floated about optional activities for those inclined to engage in during the gatherings.  The original planning team is meeting in December to pursue plans for Reunion III and to discuss how to advance some of the ideas that emerged at Malvern.
 
Most of us left Malvern Tuesday morning, refreshed by the opportunity to drink deeply from the well we find present in our gatherings. We are especially grateful to the committee that made the Malvern experience so successful: Jim Douglas, Ray McCracken, Jim Murphy, Bill Maher and Art Nicoletti.
 
Bill Mittendorf’s Voice of Childs provides a fitting close to these recollections, “I’m glad you came to Reunion II. I assure you that your presence is no accident. You answered a call from the Spirit to your brothers to witness to each other the unique gift you are. You are life! You are a gift of God! You are bonded to one another and to me by Love.”



                                                 Attendees for 2012 XOblate Reunion II

                                                                          Malvern, PA


Cerrato, Fr. Phil                                          Kotz, Ron                                                     Palm, Joe

Corkery, Dennis                                        Kovach, Joe                                               Parise, John

Costigan, John                                            Lehman, Joe                                              Pilat, Tim

DeMilde, Frank                                         McAnulty, Tom                                      Popiel, Joe   

Devine, Fr. Bob                                           McCabe, Fr. Dick                                  Powers, Richard

Desmond, Neil                                           McCarthy, Mike                                   Puhl, Steve

Douglas, Jim                                                McCracken, Ray                                   Reca, Frank

Gallagher, Jim                                             McHugh, Joe                                           Reece, OSFS, Fr. Richard

Glatthorn, Greg                                          Maher, Bill                                                Reece, OSFS, Fr. Robert 

Gore, OSFS, Fr. Bill                                     Mittendorf, Bill                                     Salzmann, OSFS, Fr. George                    

Greenfield, OSFS, Fr. Jim                       Moore, Dick                                            Smith, John

Hagan, OSFS, Fr. Tom                             Muller, Gerard                                      Steger, Tony

Hallan, Tom                                                  Murphy, Jim                                             Vadden, Tom

Hawkinson, Bob                                       Murphy, Tom                                          Vresics, Tom

 Hohenleitner, George                           Nicoletti, Art                                              Young, OCSO, Bro. Joe

Johnson, SSPX, Fr. Mike                       Norman, OSFS, Fr. Charles            Zurack, Don 

Kenney, Pat                                                   O’Neil,  John                  




                


Welcoming Remarks 2012 XOSFS Reunion at Malvern, Pa.


By: Bill Mittendorf

Welcome! Thank you Art and All Members of Your Committee. This past Friday, September 7th, I retraced the steps I had made to Childs 52 years ago to the day, when I entered the postulancy. I spent the last couple of days there visiting my old friend, John Brennan. During my stay, I wondered around the place, including the third floor of what is now known as Buckley Hall. You will recall that in addition to the barber shop, the third floor housed the trunks and suitcases. There were several still there to my amasement. I saw a trunk with the name Fr. John Conmy. I didn’t open it. One old black trunk caught my attention. There was an envelope taped onto the top. The trunk had a tag, barely readable, showing Philadelphia as the city of origin. I opened the dusty envelope and found this letter inside. It reads in the voice of Childs:

“ To: The 2012 XOSFS Reunion II, Malvern, Pa.

From: Childs “

“ You arrived here many years ago to begin your Oblate formation. I was a vibrant place then, full of activity, joy, peace, silence, and happiness! My numbers were large. My farm was in full swing with the good brothers in charge. My silence enveloped the place on my country hillside! My chapel and study halls were filled ! My dorms, cells, rec rooms, refectory were almost to capacity! Sr. Jane was here with her superb meals!

I remember you well ! Your presence graced my place. You prayed in my chapel. Studied in my study halls. Cleaned my floors. Kissed my floors at times. Worked in my fields and kitchen. Yes, I was the place of beginnings!


Today, I am the place of endings in many respects. I am no longer the novitiate. I ceased that activity many years ago as the numbers arriving diminished. My dorms and cells are now only storage spaces. My chapel is still here, but now used only for funerals and burials. My farm is no longer. Frs. Conmy, Gaffigan, Buckley, Dan Murphy, Bill Gallagher, and others who served here lie in rest in my cemetery on the hillside, the largest gathering place of Oblates.

Yes, I’ve changed like you have! I’ve grown old and grey as you! I’ve journeyed through life as you with ups, downs, happiness, sadness. Such is life isn’t it ! I now serve as the respite for your ill and infirmed confreres, as well as their final resting place.

I heard you left the Oblates some years ago. You have been gone but not forgotten! I’ve often wondered what happened to you. I want you to know that each of you, in a special way, contributed much to the Oblate way of life. I’m proud of you! Your years of dedicated service to OSFS has contributed to what OSFS is today! This, I’ll never forget!

I’m glad you came to Reunion II. I assure you that your presence is no accident. You answered a call from the Spirit to join your brother confreres: to reconnect with the past, the old stories, but more importantly, to live in the present moment to share and witness to each other who you are. For you are a unique gift! Life, the greatest gift from God! You are bonded to one another and me by love. What could be stronger! Enjoy your days together at Malvern. Come back to Childs to visit me at any time! Walk my grounds. Visit my cemetery. You will recognize most of my residents

Finally, and most importantly! Pray for me, for one another, for your families, for all OSFS, especially my sick and infirm, and all XOSFS. In parting, be yourself! And be that well! You are a treasure to behold in the eyes of God and one another! Peace be with you! “

Good Bye!

Signed: Childs

joe lehman

Marital status: Married
Children: 2
Occupation: retired
Comment: looking forward to seeing some people i have not seen in 50 years or more.

Joe

Bill Maher

Then Then
Now Now
Marital status: Married
Children: 3
Occupation: Social worker in Phila., PA prisons (ret)
Comment:  

Ray McCracken

Then Then
Now Now
Marital status: Married
Children: 2
Occupation: Spiritual Director
Comment:

Frank McGrath (Maureen McGrath)

Marital status: Married
Children: 2
Occupation: teacher
Comment:  Loving life in Virginia Beach. WE HAVE A GUEST ROOM AND ALL ARE WELCOME

Joseph McHugh

Now Now
Marital status: Widowed
Children: 2
Occupation: Retired
Comment:  

Mike Meloche

Now Now
Marital status: Married
Children: 3
Occupation: Retired
Comment: Looking forward to next September

Dick Moore

Now Now
Marital status: Committed Relationship
Children: 1
Occupation: Retired but doins some consulting and training
Comment: I am living between downtown Toronto and a farm in Port Colborne. I retired in Jan 2010 and am involved with various community boards, the Anglican church where I worship and a band we both are part of (I sing).

We have 3 adopted grandkids in Toronto and I have twin granddaughters in Los Angeles. My partner's son and his wife are expecting a daughter in August.

We share our Toronto house with young people (students and workers) and enjoy the community life it offers.

I spent most of my career working with older adults and their families.

I have no idea how to insert old photos.

Jim Murphy

Marital status: Married
Children: 1
Occupation: retiree
Comment:  Look forward.  Murph

John O'Neill

Marital status: Married
Children: 3
Occupation: retired teacher Latin/German/English
Comment: Retired on a small farm in Lancaster county; living with the Amish and appreciating their deeply Christian culture.  I live now with my wife and daughter and son in law and their two sons.  Remain active in parish church and enjoy the life in the country far from the city.  Oldest daughter lives in Oregon so we make some trips there.  Getting ready to take a cruise out of Baltimore for Bermuda.  Looking forward to reunion.

Joe Palm

Now Now
Marital status: Married
Children: 3
Occupation: Chemical Marketing